'You are not their parent': 20+ wholesome lessons people learned after their first relationship

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    Rectangle - r/AskReddit Posted by u/Frero_s 20 hours ago What did you learn from your first relationship?
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    Font - MrDadBod 20 hr. ago You're going to get your heart broken sometimes. That my friends is life. 2.7k Reply Share
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    Font - EdgyGoose 20 hr. ago Compatibility with household cleanliness and organization habits is far more important than you think. Relationships where one partner cares a lot more about the household than the other will result in both parties resenting each other. 1.8k Reply Share
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    Font - Keefer1970 20 hr. ago Long distance relationships rarely work out. My college GF called me from Germany during Summer break to say "I think we should see other people." (translation: "I'm already seeing other people..") 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - biggle213 19 hr. ago If she's willing to cheat on her bf with you, she'll be willing to cheat on you. 1.1k Reply Share
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    Font - thethrillamanila - 20 hr. ago Make your own decisions about what you want out of life your instead of those that line up with what she wants out of her life. Almost followed a girl to Portland, OR and took a job I didn't really want because I wanted to make "us" work. So happy she cared enough about me to end things and tell me to find my own path. A wife, successful military career, and bunch of kids later, I'm eternally grateful things turned out the way they did. Thank you, Katie. 4906
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    Font - Some_Specialist_5052. 19 hr. ago edited 19 hr. ago "When someone shows you who they are, believe them, the first time." -Maya Angelou, several years after I learned that lesson the hard way, but I could never phrase it better. Going hand in hand with that, you can't fix someone else, especially someone who's given up on themselves. You can only put that kind of energy and effort into yourself and expect to see returns. That one took me a couple or three ill-advised relationships, truthful
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    Font - Boromn 20 hr. ago Well, I didn't have my first relationship until I was 30 which ended up in marriage and eventually divorce. The biggest lesson I took from it was that waiting for that "perfect" person was a complete waste of time. I had a very difficult time dating when I was younger. I put too much pressure on each date for it to be something special. The marriage taught me that I could actually be desirable and gave me confidence going forward. The divorce, on the other hand, made me
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    Font - GodofWar1234 18 hr. ago. edited 9 hr. ago Sometimes the words "I love you" don't actually mean much when the person saying them doesn't believe in those words anymore 621 Reply Share
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    Rectangle - BeKindImNewButtercup. 20 hr. ago What their parents think of you matters. Also, don't write explicit letters!! 402 Reply Share
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    Font - NoodleWeird - 18 hr. ago . It's not enough to love someone; the way that love is expressed matters a lot. For a great relationship, you have to love your partner in the way they need to be loved. 325 Reply Share
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    Font - RCKJD 18 hr. ago . That I am a lucky, lucky man. I married my first girlfriend and we're still in love after 22 years of marriage. 250 Reply Share
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    Font - Odd_Imagination_6617 20 hr. ago Apperently I get too attached which is odd to me cause I'm just trying to care and I suppose it comes off in a weird way. I'm not gonna stop cause I know someone will see my worth and appreciate every second of it when they find me 239 Reply Share
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    Font - Mewnbugg 19 hr. ago That as soon as you see major red flags it's time to say goodbye and move on. Boundaries are there for a reason.. 204 Reply Share
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    Font - ukulelemirrorball 17 hr. ago Apologies mean nothing without action. If you move too fast, they're only in love with the idea of you. Listen to your gut. You can't predict the future. Enjoy every moment even if you worry it will end. If they tell you you're too good for them, believe them.
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    Font - If they say they will hurt you, believe them. If their parent acknowledges their emotional regulation issues, believe them. It was a good practice run for my next relationship. I learnt a lot. I don't regret it even if it hurt and I don't want to see her ever again. Most first relationships don't work out but at the same time sometimes they do. Take it easy and enjoy the ride. 196 Reply Share
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    Font - Elegant-Vehicle 7314 18 hr. ago That some people aren't meant for you. Don't wait for them to be somebody they aren't and don't try to change them to fit what you want them to be. 188 Reply Share
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    Font - Rebel_0518 20 hr. ago Someone can be a really good friend, doesn't mean they'll be a good partner. Also not to give into pressure from your partner on things you believe in 181 Reply Share
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    Font - WatchingTaint Dry69. 18 hr. ago You are not their parent. 4 116 Reply Share
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    Font - cosmic_her0 20 hr. ago Don't ignore feelings just because you're in a good mood. Address problems, think about what you can accept, and work past it accordingly.
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    Hair - MildlySorry 19 hr. ago That I'm gay
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    Font - MisakiAmi21 20 hr. ago. edited 8 hr. ago Sometimes there is never a right time.
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    Font - Zestyclose_Cat_1748 20 hr. ago Not to give second chances to the wrong person
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    Human body - DarlinggD 17 hr. ago To never chase or beg anyone to stay.
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    Font - HornDogglerHorbo. 20 hr. ago Passion with no stability is not ideal for a serious relationship.
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    Font - OreoIsMaCatto 18 hr. ago To not completely depend on someone for your happiness and to not let them make you feel bad for being yourself

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